They said it couldn’t happen… but it did.
February 28, 2008
I had a ‘focus group’ dinner with some of my clients last night (wood oven roasted pizza, baked oysters, and rib eyed steak – what a feast!) I asked them the single biggest benefit they got from our work together. They started off by saying they got business results they wanted, i.e,. one grew business 40% in a year, another was promoted on the fast track, a third has ‘the big boss’ raving about him. Yet they all said the thing that meant the most to them from our coaching, was this:
(Can you guess?)
They said: “Confidence, but its more than that”…
Someone called it: “Faith in myself”
A woman called it: “Validating my value”
A guy called it “Self empowered, I know how to stand out from my peers”
One declared, it’s: “Freedom”
They agreed on the summation: “I am who I am, and I’m finally ok with that”
As we were talking they said our work together taught them the ability to tap into their hidden inner potential that they didn’t know how to do before. They now know how to get the most out of themselves, in their personal and professional lives. If they are having a bad day, they know how to let it go and move on.
For all the ways they used to look to other people to feel approved of, to know how they were doing; or for the ways they didn’t ‘put themselves out there’ to avoid others’ criticisms – my clients now have the tools to get what they need from within. They all agreed that they now bypass worrying about what other people think about them and put their energy into making the life they want. They make great connections with others, but rely on themselves.
If you are thinking to yourself “that’s great for them, but I could never feel that?” I’ll tell you they thought so too. Some of my clients are in business for themselves, others work in companies. Some are in a sales role, others in operational roles. It doesn’t matter what you do in your career or where you start from – once you are comfortable being who you are and make effective use of who you are – you have the foundation you need for success in both your professional and personal life.
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Do you have the ability to validate your own value, without seeking approval from other people?
If you need to look for other people to feel confident in your life, what effect does it have on your life?
What would be different in your life if you could rely on yourself rather than look to other people?
2) How do you get the best out of yourself now? If you do so by criticizing yourself or being fearful that you will make a fool out of yourself, does this feel like a sustainable strategy for the rest of your life?
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Does how you feel about yourself at the end of the day depend on whether you’ve made a good sale or whether you spent too much time surfing the net?
Or do you have the ability to accept yourself and move on, no matter what? How would your evenings be different if you had the ability to accept yourself no matter what happened at work that day?
If you want the toolbox to tap your hidden inner potential, join my 8 week course in NYC starting Tuesdays in March. You, too, can be ‘free’ of your doubts and have that deep feeling of confidence in yourself…in 2 months. Here is more information and the link to sign up for the preview call.
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